Anyone who's ever tried to have sex while also trying to ignore a screaming baby, a blaring TV, or a chatty roommate knows that it's not always easy to stay focused during sex. And yet, as anyone who's ever had mind-blowing sex knows, it can make all the difference. So how do you keep things steamy when the outside world is determined to intrude? Here are a few tips:
- First, make sure you're in the right frame of mind. If you're feeling tense or anxious, it will be harder to relax and enjoy yourself. So take a few deep breaths, clear your mind, and focus on the moment.
- Second, create an environment that's conducive to sexy times. This means dimming the lights, setting the mood with music or scented candles, and ensuring you won't be interrupted.
- Finally, don't be afraid to get vocal. Claim your pleasure out loud! It will make sex more exciting for you, but it'll also let your partner know exactly what you like. After all, there's nothing hotter than knowing you're turning someone on.
Establish rules and boundaries before getting started
Whether you're in a new relationship or have been together for years, it's always important to set clear boundaries and establish rules for your sex life. Some key considerations include deciding how often and when you will spend time together, establishing guidelines for communicating both in-person and online, working through disagreements without letting them become a distraction, and discussing the level of physical intimacy that feels comfortable for you. Additionally, it is crucial to consider each other's families and friendships ā how much contact is healthy, when you will see each other during visits home, etc. Overall, by having an open and honest conversation about these critical aspects of your relationship, you can reduce distractions during the sexy time and maintain the intimacy and connection that keeps your relationship strong.
Talk about what turns each other on
Sometimes we may find that we no longer feel turned on by our partner, perhaps because we've been together for a long time and have become bored or complacent. This might be due to stress, distraction, or not feeling supported or appreciated by our partner. Your partner is sure to catch your eye, whether it's subtle flirting with their gaze or voice, taking our breath away with unexpected compliments and gestures, or simply showing interest and affection towards us, your partner.
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And in fact, some of the most surprising moments can be the hottest ā from unexpected role-play requests, introduction of toy enhancements like oral sprays, edible undies, or flavored lubes to unexpected kinks popping up during steamy encounters. Whether experimenting with bondage ropes and blindfolds one day and dirty talk the next, you never know what will happen in bed (or elsewhere).
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