24LuXe Comprehensive Kink & Fetish Glossary

Abduction Play: A consensual role-playing scenario where one partner pretends to be kidnapped or captured by another. This kink often involves elements of restraint, fear play, and power exchange, with strict boundaries and aftercare in place.

Abrasion Play: A form of sensation play that involves lightly scraping or rubbing the skin with textured objects like sandpaper, rough fabrics, or abrasive gloves to create heightened sensitivity.

Adrenaline Play: A kink where participants seek out activities that create an adrenaline rush, such as fear play, edge play, or high-intensity impact scenes.

Age Play: Role-playing where participants take on the roles of different ages, such as adult baby/caregiver or teacher/student dynamics. This form of play often explores themes of nurturing, discipline, and authority.

Agalmatophilia: Sexual attraction to statues or mannequins, often involving the fantasy of turning a person into an inanimate object. This fetish can encompass a range of scenarios, from lifelike models to artistic representations.

Algolagnia: The pleasure derived from pain, often tied to sadomasochistic dynamics in BDSM.

Alien/Monster Fetish (Xenophilia): A kink involving sexual attraction to extraterrestrial or monstrous beings, often explored through role-play, fantasy, or specialized sex toys.

Amaurophilia: Arousal from playing with blindness or sensory deprivation, often using blindfolds or complete darkness to enhance other senses.

Anal Play: Any sexual activity involving stimulation of the anus, often using toys, fingers, or other objects. This can include a variety of practices, from gentle exploration to more intense activities.

Anal Fisting: The practice of inserting the entire hand into the anus for sexual pleasure. This requires careful preparation, relaxation, and trust between partners.

Anal Hook Play: A type of restraint play involving a metal hook inserted into the anus and often connected to rope bondage for heightened control and submission.

Animal Roleplay (Pet Play): A kink where participants role-play as animals, such as kittens, puppies, ponies, or other creatures. This can involve specific behaviors, gear (like collars, tails, and leashes), and power exchange dynamics.

Anthropophagolagnia: A rare fetish involving erotic fantasies about being eaten or eating another person, often explored in vore (vorarephilia) roleplay within a strictly fantasy-based setting.

Anesthesia Play: A kink involving role-playing medical anesthesia scenarios, often with themes of unconsciousness, trust, and control. Safety is crucial, and actual anesthetic substances should never be used.

Anticipatory Submission: A submissive practice where the submissive preemptively follows their dominant's desires or rules without explicit orders, often seen in deeply ingrained power exchange relationships.

Armpit Fetish (Maschalagnia): A kink involving sexual attraction to armpits, including smelling, licking, or being aroused by their natural scent.

Arm Restraint Play: A form of bondage focusing on restraining the arms, whether by rope, cuffs, or other bindings, to create a feeling of vulnerability or submission.

Arousal Control: A kink where one partner controls when and how the other is allowed to become aroused, often involving teasing, edging, or orgasm denial to heighten anticipation.

Arousal Gap: The disparity in arousal levels between partners, which can be a topic of negotiation or exploration in BDSM dynamics.

Asphyxiophilia: The act of becoming sexually aroused by the restriction of breathing, often involving choking or suffocation play. This practice is high-risk; safety precautions and clear communication are essential.

Attachment Play: A type of BDSM play involving the use of restraints, bindings, or tethers to create a feeling of being physically attached to the dominant partner.

Autoerotic Asphyxiation: A risky practice that involves restricting airflow during masturbation to enhance orgasm. This should be approached with extreme caution due to life-threatening risks.

Autoeroticism (Self-Fetishism): Arousal derived from one’s own body or sexual actions, including self-touch, self-bondage, or looking at oneself in the mirror in a fetishistic way.

Autoerotic Hypnosis: A fetish involving self-induced hypnosis to heighten sexual arousal or submission. Some people use pre-recorded scripts or triggers for deeper fantasy exploration.

Autogynophilia: A fetish in which an individual derives sexual arousal from imagining themselves as a woman, sometimes explored through cross-dressing or gender transformation roleplay.

Automysophilia: A fetish for being dirty or unclean, which may involve elements of sweat, mud, or bodily fluids in play.

Autopederasty: A fetish where someone fantasizes about being penetrated by their past or younger self, often tied to time-travel or clone-based fantasy scenarios.

Aversion Therapy: A kink that involves using unpleasant stimuli (like a mild shock, bad taste, or discomfort) to discourage unwanted behaviors, often within a consensual training dynamic

Ball Stretching: A form of genital play where the testicles are stretched using rings, weights, or cuffs to create pleasurable tension and elongation.

Barebacking Kink: A fetish involving unprotected sex, often linked to risk-play fantasies. Many engage in fantasy talk rather than actual unsafe practices to maintain safety.

Bastinado: A form of impact play where the soles of the feet are struck with a rod, cane, or whip. Since the feet are highly sensitive, this practice can intensify sensations and create a unique form of discipline or punishment.

Begging: A kink where the submissive is required to plead for pleasure, mercy, or attention. This dynamic can deepen submission and power exchange, reinforcing the dominant’s control.

Belting: Using a belt to strike a submissive, often as part of impact play. The material, weight, and flexibility of the belt can determine the intensity of the sensation, ranging from light stings to deep, thuddy impacts.

Bimboification: A fetish where a submissive takes on an exaggeratedly hyper-feminine, doll-like persona, often including high heels, revealing clothing, cosmetic enhancements, and a submissive attitude. This can be a roleplay fantasy or a long-term power exchange dynamic.

Binding: A general term for restraining a submissive using ropes, cuffs, chains, or other materials. Binding can be used for immobilization, aesthetic purposes, or sensory deprivation.

Blindfold Play: A form of sensory deprivation where a blindfold is used to heighten other senses. Removing sight can increase anticipation, vulnerability, and sensitivity to touch.

Body Modification Play: A kink involving permanent or semi-permanent body modifications, such as piercings, tattoos, scarification, or implants, as part of a BDSM dynamic.

Body Worship: Devoting attention and affection to specific body parts (e.g., feet, legs, hands, or genitals). This is often a submission-based practice that can reinforce a dominant-submissive dynamic by focusing on reverence, devotion, and adoration.

Bondage: Restricting someone’s movement for sexual pleasure using rope, cuffs, tape, chains, or other restraints. Bondage can range from simple wrist ties to intricate Shibari designs.

Bondage Furniture: Specialized furniture designed for bondage play, such as St. Andrew’s crosses, suspension racks, spanking benches, and cages. These pieces enhance BDSM experiences by ensuring safety, accessibility, and proper positioning during scenes.

Bondage Hood: A hood or mask that covers all or part of the head to create sensory deprivation, anonymity, or submission. Some hoods include built-in gags or eye covers for added restriction.

Boot Worship: A fetish where a submissive worships a dominant’s boots by licking, kissing, cleaning, or polishing them as an act of service or submission.

Branding: The act of burning the skin with a heated object to create a permanent mark, often used to symbolize ownership or commitment in some BDSM relationships. This practice requires extreme caution, medical awareness, and deep negotiation.

Breath Play: The practice of controlling or restricting breathing to heighten arousal. While erotic asphyxiation can intensify sensations, it is highly risky and potentially fatal. Extreme caution, constant monitoring, and clear safety measuresare essential.

Breast Bondage: A form of bondage that focuses on restricting or enhancing the breasts, often using rope, straps, or clamps. This technique can heighten sensitivity, alter shape, or create aesthetic appeal.

Bratting: A playful form of submission where the submissive intentionally misbehaves, teases, or disobeys their dominant to elicit a reaction. Some dominants enjoy disciplining bratty subs, while others prefer full obedience.

Breast Torture (Tit Torture): A form of sadomasochistic play that involves inflicting pain or intense sensation on the breasts, using methods like clamps, flogging, slapping, ice, or wax play. This practice can heighten pleasure and submission when done consensually.

Bubble Wrap Play: A sensory play fetish where bubble wrap is used to stimulate the skin, provide pressure, or create an auditory response when popped. It can be part of restraint play or sensation exploration.

BDSM: An acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM encompasses a wide range of consensual practices and power dynamics that focus on trust, communication, and consent.

Bottom: The submissive partner in a BDSM relationship or scene. A bottom receives sensations, follows instructions, or surrenders control to the dominant. Some bottoms are service-oriented, while others engage in pain or restraint play.

Breeding Kink: A fetish involving impregnation fantasies or the risk of pregnancy. Some people enjoy the dominance and submission dynamic of “breeding”, even when using safe sex practices or fantasy roleplay.

Buckling: A form of restraint play using buckles to secure straps, cuffs, or belts around the body. Unlike traditional rope bondage, buckled restraints provide a quicker release but still enforce restriction.

Butt Plug Training: A kink involving the gradual stretching of the anus using butt plugs of increasing size. This can be used for pleasure, endurance training, or preparation for anal sex.

Butterfly Board: A BDSM device with multiple restraint points that keeps a submissive’s arms and legs spread wide for exposure and vulnerability.

Branding Fantasy (Non-Permanent Marking): A kink where temporary branding techniques—such as ice, wax, temporary tattoos, or paint—are used to simulate ownership markings without permanent scars.

Cage Play: The act of confining someone in a cage for psychological or sexual arousal. This play enhances feelings of helplessness, submission, and control, often incorporating elements of humiliation, restriction, and endurance training.

Canning: A form of impact play using a cane to strike the submissive, typically focusing on areas like the buttocks or thighs. Canning can create sharp, intense sensations and is often used for both punishment and pleasure.

Catheter Play: A kink involving the insertion of a catheter into the urethra as a form of medical fetish play. This practice requires extreme caution and medical hygiene to avoid infections.

CBT (Cock and Ball Torture): A form of sadomasochistic play involving stimulation, pain, or restriction of the penis and testicles. Methods may include squeezing, slapping, electrostimulation, or bondage.

CFNM (Clothed Female, Naked Male): A fetish where the woman remains clothed while the man is naked, often emphasizing a power dynamic. This kink can highlight dominance and submission, erotic embarrassment, or servitude themes.

Chastity: The practice of preventing oneself or a partner from engaging in sexual activity, often through the use of a chastity cage, belt, or device. This play enhances desire, control, and submission, reinforcing power exchange dynamics.

Choking (Breath Play): A form of breath play that involves restricting airflow via pressure on the throat. While it can intensify sensations, it is highly dangerous and should only be done with extreme caution, clear consent, and safety measures.

Chiropractic Fetish: A niche kink where individuals are sexually aroused by chiropractic adjustments, bone-cracking sounds, or manipulations of the spine and joints.

Clamps (Nipple, Genital, or Sensory Play): The use of clamps or clips to apply pressure to nipples, labia, the penis, or other body parts to enhance pain, pleasure, and sensitivity.

Collaring: A symbolic act in BDSM relationships where a submissive is given a collar by their dominant to represent ownership, devotion, or control. Collars can range from play collars (temporary) to formal collars (long-term commitment, similar to marriage in BDSM).

Conditioning: The process of training a submissive to respond to specific cues or commands through repetition, positive reinforcement, or discipline. This can deepen power exchange relationships and strengthen obedience and trust.

Consent: The mutual agreement between partners to engage in specific BDSM activities, emphasizing communication, safety, and clear boundaries. Consent can be verbal, written, or implied within negotiated dynamics, but must always be informed, enthusiastic, and revocable at any time.

Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): Pre-negotiated role-play scenarios that simulate non-consensual activities while maintaining full mutual consent. Because of its nature, CNC requires extensive discussion, boundaries, safe words, and aftercare to ensure emotional and physical safety.

Corset Training (Tight Lacing Kink): A fetish where individuals train their waists using corsets to achieve extreme hourglass figures. This can involve long-term discipline, body modification, and elements of submission or control.

Cuckolding: A kink where one person derives pleasure from watching their partner have sex with someone else, often incorporating elements of humiliation, power exchange, and submission. Some cuckolding dynamics involve a dominant partner controlling the encounters.

Cuckqueaning: The female equivalent of cuckolding, where a woman derives pleasure from watching her male partner engage with another woman. This kink often includes feelings of erotic humiliation, submission, or compersion (pleasure from a partner’s pleasure).

Crucifixion (Kink): A form of bondage play where a person is restrained in a crucifix-like position, often to heighten vulnerability, submission, or endurance play.

Cross-Dressing: The act of wearing clothing typically associated with the opposite gender, often for sexual arousal, gender exploration, or power exchange in kink dynamics. Cross-dressing can be linked to forced feminization, sissification, or gender-bending roleplay.

Cryophilia (Cold Play): A fetish involving cold sensations as a source of sexual pleasure, often using ice, cold metal objects, snow, or temperature-sensitive materials to heighten arousal.

Cupping Kink: A form of sensory play using suction cups to create temporary marks, increased blood flow, or heightened sensitivity. Often associated with ancient medicinal cupping, but used in BDSM for aesthetic and sensory stimulation.

Cum Control (Orgasm Denial or Ruined Orgasms): A kink where the dominant controls if, when, or how their submissive orgasms. This can include prolonged edging, ruined orgasms, or chastity devices to reinforce power dynamics.

Cum Eating Instruction (CEI): A kink where a dominant instructs a submissive to consume their own ejaculate, often incorporating humiliation, power play, or training elements.

Cum Play (Semen Play): A fetish that involves playing with, displaying, or being aroused by semen. Some engage in bukkake, facials, snowballing, or swallowing as acts of submission.

Crying Fetish: A kink where one partner derives sexual pleasure from seeing another person cry. This can be linked to emotional masochism, humiliation, or catharsis through BDSM experiences.

Daddy Dom/Little Girl (DD/lg): A dynamic in which one partner takes on a nurturing "Daddy" role, while the other assumes a childlike or "little" persona. This relationship often focuses on caretaking, trust, emotional connection, and gentle dominance. It may incorporate age play elements, but does not necessarily involve regression or infantilization.

Dark Age Play: A kink that blends age play with darker BDSM elements, such as discipline, fear play, or degradation. This can create a more intense dynamic within DD/lg relationships but requires clear boundaries and consent.

Degradation: The practice of humiliating or embarrassing a partner for sexual arousal, often involving insults, derogatory language, or verbal humiliation. This kink enhances the power dynamic but requires strong communication, aftercare, and trust.

Denial (Orgasm Control/Edging): A form of control play where a dominant restricts the submissive from achieving orgasm. This can include long-term chastity, edging, ruined orgasms, or complete orgasm denial to enhance power exchange.

Dom/Sub Contract: A written agreement between a dominant and submissive that outlines expectations, limits, and responsibilitieswithin a BDSM relationship. These contracts clarify consent, establish boundaries, and ensure communication.

Discipline: The use of punishment or corrective action to reinforce obedience and shape behavior within a BDSM dynamic. Discipline can include spanking, time-outs, restriction of privileges, or humiliation, depending on the negotiated rules between partners.

Dirty Talk: Sexual conversation used to arouse, tease, or build anticipation during a BDSM scene. This can range from commands, fantasy storytelling, praise, degradation, or role-play interactions.

Disguised Identity (Mask Play): A practice where one or more participants use masks, hoods, or costumes to conceal their identities. This can create anonymity, mystery, or enhance role-play within BDSM encounters.

Dollification: A fetish in which one partner is dressed, posed, and treated like a doll, often involving elaborate clothing, makeup, wigs, or even physical restraint. This kink emphasizes objectification and complete submission.

Dom Drop: A temporary emotional crash that dominants can experience after an intense BDSM scene. It can manifest as guilt, exhaustion, emotional depletion, or anxiety. Like sub drop, it requires proper aftercare and reassurance.

Dom Space: The mental state a dominant enters during a scene, where they feel fully in control, focused, and connected to their submissive. It is often intensely gratifying but requires a high level of responsibility.

Domination: The act of taking control over a submissive partner, whether in a physical, mental, or emotional sense, within BDSM play. Domination can involve a wide variety of techniques, from verbal control and physical restraint to punishment and psychological influence.

Double Penetration: A sexual act where a person is penetrated in two orifices simultaneously, typically involving toys, partners, or strap-ons. This kink intensifies physical sensations and requires trust, consent, and preparation.

D/s Dynamics (Dominance/submission): Short for Dominance and submission, referring to structured power exchange relationships where one person takes the dominant role (leader, controller) and the other assumes the submissive role (follower, receiver). D/s relationships can range from casual scenes to full-time lifestyle commitments.

Draining (Fluid Play): A fetish involving the extraction of bodily fluids, such as blood, milk, or saliva, from a partner for erotic or power-exchange purposes. This kink should always be practiced with proper safety precautions and medical awareness.

Dubcon (Dubious Consent Fantasy Play): A BDSM fantasy where the scenario involves uncertain or ambiguous consent while still being fully consensual in reality. This can include reluctant submission, coercion play, or CNC themes, requiring clear negotiation, boundaries, and aftercare.

Dungeon: A BDSM play space specifically designed for kink activities, often equipped with restraint furniture, floggers, cages, St. Andrew’s crosses, and impact toys. Dungeons can be public or private, with varying levels of rules and etiquette.

Dynamic (BDSM Relationship Structure): A general term referring to the power exchange agreement between partners, such as Master/slave (M/s), Dominant/submissive (D/s), or Daddy Dom/Little Girl (DD/lg). Dynamics can be temporary, scene-based, or long-term lifestyle commitments.

Deprivation Play: A form of sensory play where a submissive is denied one or more senses, such as sight (blindfolds), sound (earplugs), or touch (bondage) to enhance arousal, anticipation, and submission.

Dog Play (Puppy Play): A type of pet play where a submissive takes on the role of a dog or puppy, often incorporating collars, barking, training, and playful obedience. This is commonly associated with non-sexual submission, role-play, and community interaction.

Drag Fetishism: A kink where individuals become aroused by dressing in drag, either as an extension of gender expression, role-play, or a specific sexual dynamic.

Duct Tape Bondage: A form of restraint play where duct tape is used to bind or immobilize a submissive. Due to its strong adhesive, proper safety techniques should be applied to prevent skin damage or circulation issues.

Dehumanization: A kink where a submissive is treated as less than human, often through verbal humiliation, objectification, or pet play. This can involve restricting speech, crawling, or being used as furniture ("forniphilia").

Deep Throat Training: A form of oral submission training where a submissive is taught to control their gag reflex and take deeper penetration. This can involve progressive techniques, relaxation exercises, and dominant guidance.

Ear Fetish (Otoplagnia): A kink where individuals derive sexual pleasure from ears, including licking, nibbling, whispering, or responding to ear-focused sounds. Some enjoy hearing-specific phrases, soft-spoken words, or even breath play near the ear for arousal.

Edge Play: BDSM activities that push the boundaries of safety, such as knife play, breath play, fire play, blood play, or fear play. Edge play requires thorough negotiation, trust, and extensive knowledge of risk awareness, as it can involve physical or emotional danger.

Electro Play: A kink that involves using electricity (often with a violet wand, TENS unit, or electro-stimulation devices) to create tingling, buzzing, or sharp sensations on the skin. Electro play can range from mild stimulation to intense pleasurebut requires proper safety knowledge to prevent burns or nerve damage.

Electro-Orgasm Play: A kink where electrical stimulation devices are used to induce forced orgasms. This can involve TENS units, violet wands, or specialized electrosex toys that stimulate the genitals. Proper voltage control and safety measures are required.

Enemas: The practice of introducing liquid into the rectum for medical, cleansing, or erotic purposes. Often used in medical fetish play, enemas can be a part of preparation for anal activities or serve as a humbling or submission-based practice. Hygiene and consent are essential.

Emotional Masochism: A kink where an individual derives pleasure from emotional distress, humiliation, or psychological pain. This can involve degradation, rejection play, or being ignored by a dominant partner. Clear boundaries and aftercare are essential for emotional well-being.

Emotional Sadism: Deriving pleasure from inflicting emotional pain, distress, or psychological control over another person. This kink can involve manipulation, humiliation, degradation, or mind games, and requires explicit consent, negotiation, and aftercare to protect the emotional well-being of all parties.

Erotic Acrophilia (Height Play): A kink involving arousal from heights, such as having sex in high places, being suspended, or engaging in bondage that mimics falling sensations.

Erotic Asphyxiation (Breath Play): A practice where breath control is used to heighten arousal, often involving choking, smothering, or restricting airflow. While it can be highly intense, erotic asphyxiation is extremely dangerous and should only be practiced with clear safety measures, signals, and an experienced partner.

Erotic Hypnosis: A form of mental play where one partner guides another into a trance-like state to enhance submission, relaxation, or arousal. Erotic hypnosis can involve suggestions that deepen roleplay, increase sensitivity, or encourage behavioral conditioning.

Erotic Mind Control: A kink involving fantasies of being mentally controlled by another, often through hypnosis, drugs (in fantasy), or supernatural elements. This can include brainwashing roleplay or obedience training.

Erotic Sensory Deprivation: A type of sensation play that involves removing or dulling one or more senses, such as blindfolding (sight), gagging (speech), or using earplugs (sound deprivation). This enhances other sensory responses and can create heightened submission and vulnerability.

Eroguro: A Japanese aesthetic that blends eroticism with the grotesque. This kink can involve art, literature, or roleplay that explores taboo or horror-themed erotic content, often mixing elements of body modification, blood play, or surreal imagery.

Escapology (Escape Play): A type of bondage play where the submissive attempts to escape their restraints. This can be a challenge-based scene, enhancing thrill, submission, and trust between partners.

Exhibitionism: Deriving pleasure from being seen naked or engaging in sexual activity in public or semi-public spaces. Exhibitionism often involves thrill from the risk of being caught, enhancing excitement and arousal. Consent is key, and legality should always be considered.

Exotic Dancers: Performers who engage in erotic dance in clubs, private settings, or BDSM-themed spaces. Some BDSM practitioners enjoy watching, interacting with, or incorporating exotic dancers into their kink experiences, particularly in fetish clubs or power exchange dynamics.

Exquisite Pain: A term used to describe pain that is intentionally inflicted during BDSM play, often viewed as pleasurable, transcendent, or euphoric. This can be linked to sadomasochistic experiences where pain and pleasure blend into a heightened state of arousal.

Extreme Bondage: A form of bondage that involves advanced, intricate, or high-risk techniques, often requiring specialized equipment and expertise. Extreme bondage may include full-body mummification, suspension bondage, or restricted breath bondage, emphasizing strict safety protocols and experienced partners.

Endorphin Rush (Pain Play Response): A natural high that occurs during intense BDSM activities such as impact play, flogging, or edge play, where the body releases endorphins as a response to pain. This can create feelings of euphoria, relaxation, and deep connectionbetween partner

Face Sitting: When a dominant partner sits on the submissive’s face, typically for oral sex, often as part of smothering play. This act can enhance feelings of power exchange and control, while also increasing intimacy and pleasure.

Fear Play: A BDSM practice that involves intentionally inducing fear in a submissive, often through scenarios involving suspense, threats (within roleplay), or psychological mind games. Fear play can involve elements such as knife play, kidnap roleplay, or staged danger, requiring intense trust, negotiation, and aftercare.

Femdom (Female Domination): A BDSM dynamic where a female-identifying dominant (Femdom/Femme Domme) takes control over a submissive partner. This can involve physical domination, psychological control, or humiliation play.

Femme Domme: A term used to describe a female dominant in BDSM relationships. The femme domme may take on various roles and styles, emphasizing power dynamics, femininity, and strength.

Figging: The practice of inserting a piece of ginger root into the anus or vagina to create a burning, tingling sensation. Figging is often used in BDSM as a form of discipline or sensation play, requiring clear consent and knowledge of intensity levels.

Fire Play: The use of fire or heat for sexual stimulation, often with extreme caution and proper safety measures. Fire play can involve flame sensations applied to the skin, requiring knowledge of safety practices to prevent burns and injuries.

Fisting: The insertion of the entire hand into the vagina or anus. This practice requires careful preparation, communication, and consent, as it can be intense and requires a high level of trust between partners. Lubrication, relaxation, and pacing are crucial.

Flogging: A form of impact play using a flogger (a multi-tailed whip) to strike the skin, often used in BDSM scenes. The sensations can range from gentle to intense, depending on the material of the flogger, force applied, and rhythm of strikes.

Forced Bi (Forced Bisexuality Fantasy): A kink involving the dominant compelling a submissive to engage in same-sex interactions, often as a form of humiliation, power play, or enforced pleasure. Despite the term, it is a consensual fantasy roleplay, not an actual non-consensual act.

Forced Chastity: A practice where a dominant enforces chastity on a submissive, typically using a chastity cage or belt to restrict sexual release. Forced chastity can heighten arousal, reinforce submission, and deepen power exchange.

Forced Feminization (Sissification): A kink where a male submissive is dressed up or made to act like a woman for the dominant’s pleasure, often with elements of humiliation or role reversal. This practice can involve clothing, makeup, speech training, or behavioral modifications that establish a specific dominant-submissive dynamic.

Foot Fetish (Podophilia): A sexual fascination with feet, often involving kissing, licking, worshiping, or massaging feet. Foot fetishism can include elements such as high heels, foot odor, toe sucking, or footjobs, depending on preferences.

Forced Orgasms: A BDSM practice where a dominant controls and forces a submissive to orgasm repeatedly, often using vibrators, edging techniques, or orgasm control devices. This can be pleasurable yet overwhelming and is frequently paired with bondage to enhance helplessness.

Full-Body Bondage: A type of bondage that restrains the entire body, often using ropes, straps, or full-body mummification techniques. This type of play can heighten vulnerability, submission, and sensory deprivation, creating intense mental and physical restraint experiences.

Furniture Play (Forniphilia): A form of objectification where a submissive is treated as a piece of furniture, such as a chair, footstool, or table. This can involve bondage, endurance play, and power exchange, emphasizing control and humiliation.

Furry Play: A fetish where participants dress as anthropomorphic animals ("furries") for role-playing or sexual activities. This can include fursuits, animalistic behaviors, and pet play dynamics, with some furries engaging in non-sexual roleplay within furry communities.

Face Slapping: A form of impact play where the dominant slaps the submissive’s face, usually as an expression of control, humiliation, or discipline. It requires clear consent, trust, and proper technique to avoid injury.

Feargasms: A term used in fear play, where a submissive experiences sexual arousal and intense release from adrenaline-inducing scenarios, such as kidnap play, mock danger, or power imbalance roleplay.

Forced Feeding (Feederism Kink): A kink involving a dominant forcibly feeding a submissive, often as a form of power exchange, control, or body transformation fetish. This can involve overindulgence, weight gain fantasies, or medical feeder dynamics.

Forced Nudity: A BDSM practice where a dominant requires a submissive to be naked, often as an act of humiliation, exposure, or vulnerability enhancement. This can be done in private settings or in controlled public roleplay scenarios.

Forced Servitude: A kink where a submissive is required to perform domestic tasks, personal services, or labor-intensive duties for their dominant. This dynamic can be part of a Master/slave (M/s) structure, houseboy/girl roleplay, or erotic domestic servitude.

Frigging (Manual Stimulation): An older term referring to manual stimulation of the genitals, including clitoral rubbing or penile stroking, sometimes used in historical BDSM literature.

Frenulum Worship: A specific fetish involving stimulation of the frenulum (the sensitive ridge of tissue under the penis head). This can involve tongue flicking, slow teasing, or dedicated oral techniques to enhance pleasure.

Fantasy Rape (CNC Rape Play): A consensual roleplay kink where one partner acts out a rape fantasy while the other pretends to resist. This falls under consensual non-consent (CNC) play, requiring clear pre-negotiation, boundaries, safe words, and aftercare.

Gags: Devices used to prevent a submissive from speaking, often adding to a sense of helplessness and vulnerability during BDSM scenes. Common types include ball gags, bit gags, ring gags, panel gags, and tape gags. Gags can heighten submission but require careful monitoring to ensure safety and prevent breathing issues.

Genital Torture: Any activity that focuses on inflicting pain or discomfort on the genitals, often consensually as part of BDSM and sadomasochistic play. Techniques may include squeezing, pinching, impact play, electrostimulation, clothespins, or vacuum pumping. Trust, negotiation, and safety measures are essential.

Golden Showers (Watersports): The act of urinating on or being urinated on by a partner for sexual pleasure. This kink often involves elements of humiliation, dominance, submission, and control, appealing to those who enjoy taboo or unconventional sexual experiences. Proper hygiene and consent are critical in watersports play.

Gorean: A BDSM philosophy and lifestyle derived from the "Gor" series of novels by John Norman, emphasizing strict master/slave dynamics, rigid gender roles, and deep protocols in power exchange relationships. Some within the BDSM community embrace Gorean principles, while others find its structure too rigid.

Glove Fetish: A sexual attraction to gloves, often tied to the look, feel, or sound of gloves being worn. Glove fetishism can be connected to medical play, dominance, latex or leather fetishism, and sensory control, with some preferring long opera gloves, latex surgical gloves, or tight-fitting leather gloves.

Gimp: A term used to refer to a submissive who is restrained or dressed in restrictive gear, often associated with full-body latex or leather suits, sensory deprivation, and extreme submission. The "gimp suit" is a well-known BDSM costume that restricts movement, vision, and speech to enhance submission.

Grounding: A technique used in BDSM to help a submissive feel more connected and centered, often after an intense scene or emotional experience. Grounding may involve physical touch, verbal reassurance, sensory engagement (such as running fingers along the skin or holding a solid object), or aftercare rituals.

Gratuitous Pain: Pain inflicted without a specific purpose, structure, or negotiation, often considered excessive or unnecessary. In BDSM, the distinction between pleasurable, consensual pain and non-consensual, purposeless pain is essential to maintaining ethical and safe play.

Group Play (Multi-Partner BDSM Scenes): BDSM scenes that involve multiple participants, typically exploring power dynamics between multiple dominants and submissives. This can include threesomes, dungeon parties, sex clubs, public scenes, or organized playgroups. Clear communication, defined roles, consent, and negotiation are essential when engaging in group play.

Goddess Worship: A kink where a submissive devotes themselves to a dominant woman, treating her as a goddess, queen, or superior being. This can involve acts of service, praise, financial domination (findom), foot worship, and obedience-based rituals.

Gaslighting (Manipulation Play): A psychological practice where a dominant manipulates a submissive into questioning their own reality, memories, or perceptions. While real-world gaslighting is abusive, it can be explored in consensual mind games, brainwashing roleplay, or consensual non-consent (CNC) scenarios—but requires intense trust, boundaries, and aftercare.

Garter Fetish: A fetish for garter belts, stockings, and thigh-high lingerie, often associated with feminization, lingerie fetishism, and vintage pin-up aesthetics. This kink can enhance power dynamics and submissive dressing rituals.

Gender Play: A broad term for role-playing or experimenting with gender identity in BDSM scenes, including forced feminization, cross-dressing, and gender-based humiliation. Gender play can be a form of erotic expression or an exploration of gender identity and power exchange.

Gonzo Porn Kink: A fetish for raw, unscripted, and POV-style adult films that simulate being directly involved in the scene. Some BDSM enthusiasts enjoy gonzo-style kink films where dominant and submissive interactions feel improvised and immersive.

Ghosting (Disappearance Play): A psychological kink where a dominant "disappears" from a submissive’s life for a set period of time, reinforcing power dynamics, longing, and dependency. While ghosting is considered emotionally harmful outside of negotiated play, some enjoy this in long-distance D/s relationships or as part of CNC abandonment scenarios.

Game-Based BDSM (Gambling & Risk Play): A kink where BDSM elements are incorporated into competitive or gambling-style challenges, such as card games, dice games, or punishment/reward games. Submissives may have to "bet" on rewards or endure punishments based on game outcomes.

Gothic Fetishism: A kink that involves erotic attraction to gothic aesthetics, such as dark clothing, corsets, vampire roleplay, latex, leather, and alternative fashion. Gothic fetishism is often tied to roleplay scenarios, vampire kink, and dominance/submission themes.

Genitorture (CBT & CBB): A form of genital torture that specifically focuses on intense sensations on the penis, testicles (CBT), or breasts (CBB). This can include electrostimulation, ball stretching, clothespins, slapping, or crushing devices.

Gag Orders (Speech Control Kink): A BDSM practice where a submissive is forbidden from speaking, sometimes enforced with physical gags or verbal commands. This type of control play can heighten submission, discipline, and the loss of verbal autonomy.

Gas Mask Fetish: A kink for gas masks as a form of sensory deprivation, roleplay, or breath control play. This can be tied to military fetishism, medical play, or restrictive kink gear.

Gender Neutral Domination (Androgynous Power Play): A power dynamic where the dominant avoids traditional gendered roles, instead embracing a fluid or androgynous expression of power. This can be found in non-binary dom/sub relationships, genderfuck play, or neutral titles like "Mx." for dominance.

Hair Pulling: A form of light BDSM where pulling on a partner’s hair provides both pain and pleasure, commonly used in power play and rough sex. Proper technique—grabbing at the roots rather than yanking the ends—can enhance submission and dominance, adding an element of control and excitement to a scene.

Hand Worship: A fetish where a submissive admires, kisses, licks, or massages the dominant's hands as an act of devotion and submission. Often found in worship-based kinks like foot worship and goddess worship.

Harness Fetish: A kink involving leather or latex harnesses worn for aesthetic, restraint, or roleplay purposes. Harnesses can symbolize ownership, submission, or fashion within BDSM and fetish communities.

Hard Limits: Absolute boundaries that participants in BDSM agree never to cross. Hard limits are non-negotiable and should be clearly communicated and respected by all partners to ensure consent and safety. Examples may include specific kinks, words, activities, or triggers.

Hedonism: A philosophy that emphasizes the pursuit of pleasure as a primary goal in life. In BDSM, hedonism can manifest through the exploration of various kinks and sensations that bring joy, indulgence, and satisfaction.

High Protocol: A structured set of rules and rituals followed within a BDSM relationship, often emphasizing the roles of dominant and submissive partners. High protocol relationships may include specific forms of address, behavior expectations, and rituals, particularly in formal D/s or M/s (Master/slave) relationships.

Hogtie: A specific type of bondage where the submissive's hands and feet are tied together behind their back. This position enhances feelings of vulnerability and restraint while requiring careful consideration of circulation, flexibility, and comfort.

House Slave: A submissive who has agreed to take on domestic duties and roles within a BDSM dynamic, often serving their dominant in a lifestyle context. Responsibilities may include cooking, cleaning, or other household tasks in addition to BDSM play.

Humbling: A BDSM practice where a submissive is intentionally made to feel less important or inferior, often through humiliation, degradation, or objectification. This can enhance the power dynamic between partners when done consensually and respectfully.

Humiliation: Deriving pleasure from being humiliated or humiliating someone else, often through verbal insults, public exposure, objectification, or embarrassing scenarios. Humiliation play can heighten feelings of vulnerability, degradation, or submission, emphasizing the psychological aspects of power dynamics.

Humiliation Fetish (Erotic Embarrassment): A kink where an individual is sexually aroused by being embarrassed, shamed, or degraded, often involving public exposure fantasies, body shaming, cuckolding, or forced confession roleplay. Aftercare is crucial, as this type of play can have deep emotional impacts.

Human Furniture (Forniphilia): A type of objectification play where a submissive is used as a piece of furniture, such as a footstool, chair, or table. This kink emphasizes submission, control, and endurance, and is often incorporated into high-protocol BDSM relationships.

Hot Wax Play: A form of sensation play that involves dripping warm wax on the skin to create a contrast between heat and coolness. This practice requires caution, including the use of body-safe, low-temperature wax (such as soy or paraffin) to prevent burns.

Hypno Play (Erotic Hypnosis): A form of roleplay involving hypnosis, where one partner controls the other’s mind, thoughts, or behavior during a BDSM session. Hypno play can include suggestions that enhance arousal, increase sensitivity, or reinforce submission, creating a unique power exchange experience.

Human Puppy Play (Dog Play/Pet Play): A kink where a submissive takes on the role of a puppy or dog, often including barking, crawling, wearing collars, and training exercises. This play may be non-sexual (focused on playfulness and obedience) or involve deeper power dynamics.

Humiliation Training: A form of training in long-term D/s relationships, where a submissive is conditioned to accept and even crave humiliation as part of their role. This can involve public humiliation, verbal degradation, forced nudity, or tasks that reinforce submissiveness.

Harem Fantasy: A roleplay scenario in which a dominant has multiple submissives serving them, inspired by historical or fictional depictions of harems. Harem dynamics often include hierarchies among submissives and structured obedience rituals.

Hyper-Masculinity Kink: A fetish centered around exaggerated masculinity, often explored through dominance, leather culture, muscle worship, or aggressive sex dynamics. Some submissives enjoy being overpowered by a hyper-masculine dominant, while others roleplay subverting traditional gender roles.

Hypoxic Play (Breath Control Play): A form of edge play that involves limiting oxygen intake to enhance sexual pleasure and submission. Techniques may include choking, smothering, or using gas masks. Due to its high risk, hypoxic play requires expert knowledge, constant monitoring, and strict safety measures

Ice Play: A form of sensation play involving ice or other cold objects to create unique contrasts of temperature on the skin. Ice play can heighten sensitivity, increase arousal, and be combined with heat play for a more intense sensory experience.

Impact Play: A broad term for BDSM activities that involve striking the body with hands, paddles, whips, canes, floggers, or cropsto create sensations ranging from light pleasure to intense pain. The type, intensity, and placement of impact can vary widely, and communication about limits and aftercare is crucial for safety and enjoyment.

Infantilism (Adult Baby Play - AB/DL): A kink where one partner pretends to be a baby or child, often involving diapers, pacifiers, bottles, and baby-like behavior. This type of role play can emphasize nurturing, care, and dependence, with a "parent" or caregiver taking on a dominant role.

Incorporation (Kink Blending): In BDSM, incorporation refers to integrating multiple kinks or fetishes into a single scene or dynamic. This could include bondage and humiliation, impact play and sensory deprivation, or chastity and forced orgasms to create a richer and more immersive experience.

Induced Arousal (Arousal Manipulation Play): A kink where the dominant controls when and how the submissive experiences arousal, often through edging, orgasm control, erotic hypnosis, or denial play.

Inescapable Bondage: A form of bondage that prevents the submissive from escaping, either through intricate rope work, locks, or restrictive positioning. The mental element of helplessness and surrender is often a key part of this kink.

Inhibition: A psychological concept in BDSM that refers to the mental barriers or fears that may prevent someone from fully embracing their desires or fantasies. Overcoming inhibitions often requires trust, communication, and gradual exploration between partners.

Internal Play: Refers to practices that involve stimulation of internal areas of the body, often using toys, hands, or other implements. Internal play includes anal, vaginal, urethral, or deep throat stimulation, requiring proper preparation, hygiene, and safety considerations.

Interrogation Play: A BDSM role-play scenario where one partner takes on the role of an interrogator, incorporating dominance, forced questioning, psychological manipulation, or mild forms of coercion play. This type of play enhances vulnerability, submission, and mental endurance.

Intensification: The process of gradually increasing the intensity of a BDSM scene, whether through physical sensations, emotional dynamics, or psychological pressure. This can include building from light spanking to full impact play, or escalating from teasing to orgasm denial. Strong communication and consent are essential.

Intimacy Bondage: A form of bondage that emphasizes emotional closeness and connection, rather than strict restraint. Intimacy bondage often involves soft rope, silk scarves, or body-binding techniques that encourage physical closeness between partners.

Intercrural Play (Non-Penetrative Thigh Sex): A practice where a partner places their penis between the thighs, breasts, or other body parts of their partner and thrusts without penetration. This can be a form of tease-and-denial play or a safe alternative to penetrative sex.

Isolation Play: A kink involving the deliberate separation of a submissive from their environment or other people to heighten feelings of vulnerability, submission, and dependence on the dominant. Isolation play can include sensory deprivation, confinement in a cage, or being left in a darkened room.

Immobilization Bondage: A type of extreme bondage where the submissive is fully restrained and unable to move, often using mummification, body wraps, or full-body bondage gear. Immobilization enhances power exchange and helplessness.

Inhalation Play (Breath Control Play): A form of breath play that involves controlled restriction of airflow using gas masks, hands over the mouth, or plastic bags. Due to the high risk involved, this type of edge play should only be done with extensive safety measures and experience.

Instrumental Punishment: The use of specific BDSM tools (such as canes, paddles, or floggers) as part of a discipline or correction scene. Some submissives enjoy the structure of formal punishment scenes, where spankings, floggings, or restraints serve as a consequence for misbehavior.

Intensity Thresholds (Pain Limits): A concept in BDSM where partners negotiate and establish how much physical or psychological intensity they can handle in a scene. Some people have higher pain thresholds and enjoy extreme impact play, while others prefer light sensations.

Intersex Play (Gender Fluidity Roleplay): A kink where participants explore gender expression and intersex characteristics through roleplay or dressing. This may involve body modification, cross-dressing, or embracing androgyny in BDSM dynamics.

Invisible Bondage (Mental Bondage): A form of psychological play where a submissive "imagines" themselves being restrained, even though they are physically free. Invisible bondage can be used for erotic hypnosis, submission training, or to heighten mental surrender.

Instinctive Submission: A state where a submissive naturally and automatically falls into submission, often in response to dominant triggers, body language, or authority figures. Instinctive submission can be a deeply ingrained dynamic in long-term BDSM relationships.

Japanese Bondage (Shibari/Kinbaku): A form of bondage that uses intricate rope techniques to create aesthetic designs and immobilization on the body. Shibari emphasizes the beauty of knots and patterns, often enhancing both physical and psychological submission. Kinbaku is a more intense version of Shibari, with a focus on deep submission and connection between partners.

Jeopardy Play (Risk-Perceived Play): A type of BDSM scenario where the submissive is placed in situations that involve a perceived risk or danger, enhancing the thrill and psychological intensity of the experience. Jeopardy play can include predicament bondage, knife play, or fear-based roleplay, but always within consensual and negotiated boundaries.

Jerk Off Instruction (JOI): A kink where a dominant verbally instructs a submissive on how, when, and where to masturbate. This form of erotic control play can be used in long-distance D/s relationships, humiliation play, or orgasm control.

Jockstrap Fetish: A sexual attraction or fixation on jockstraps, often related to sportswear fetishism, masculinity, and athletic imagery. This fetish can be incorporated into BDSM dynamics, roleplay, and power exchange scenarios.

Joy of Submission: The emotional and physical pleasure derived from yielding control to a dominant partner. The joy of submissionhighlights the deep fulfillment, trust, and intimacy that submissives may experience in BDSM play, reinforcing the psychological aspects of power exchange.

Joint Locks (Restraint & Control Techniques): A method used in BDSM to control a submissive’s movements by applying pressure to their joints. These techniques are borrowed from martial arts and can enhance power dynamics, struggle play, and dominance during a scene. Care and knowledge of anatomy are crucial to prevent injury.

Jungle Gym (BDSM Furniture & Equipment): A playful term referring to large, elaborate BDSM furniture or equipment designed for restraint, suspension, or play. Common structures include St. Andrew’s crosses, cages, bondage frames, or multi-use playstations.

Jouissance (Ecstatic Submission): A French term meaning "intense, ecstatic pleasure", often used in BDSM to describe the overwhelming release of control and pleasure that submissives experience during a scene. Jouissance highlights the euphoric, mind-altering aspects of deep submission.

Juxtaposition (Contrasting Elements in BDSM): A term used to describe the interplay of opposites within a scene, such as pain and pleasure, dominance and submission, restraint and freedom. Juxtaposition enhances the depth and emotional complexity of BDSM dynamics.

Journaling (BDSM Reflection & Communication): A common practice where BDSM participants write about their experiences, desires, boundaries, and emotional reactions. Journaling can be a tool for self-reflection, understanding personal kinks, and improving communication with partners.

Judicial Punishment Roleplay: A BDSM scenario where one partner takes on the role of an authoritarian figure, such as a judge or warden, enforcing strict punishments on the submissive. This can include caning, paddling, interrogation, or discipline-based correction scenes.

Jail Roleplay (Prison Kink): A BDSM roleplay scenario involving one partner acting as a guard, warden, or authority figure while the other plays the role of an inmate. This can include strip searches, forced obedience, confinement, and strict discipline.

Japanese Clover Clamps: A type of nipple clamp that tightens when pulled, commonly used in BDSM sensation play, pain play, or predicament bondage. These clamps increase pressure under tension, creating a deeper level of control and intensity.

Jade Fetishism (Precious Stone & Material Fetishism): A lesser-known kink involving sexual attraction to smooth, cold materials like jade, marble, or glass, often used in temperature play, stone dildos, or luxurious bondage gear.

Kidnapping Play (Abduction Fantasy Play): A role-playing scenario where one partner pretends to kidnap the other, often involving forced restraint, captivity, blindfolding, and psychological domination. This type of play emphasizes consent, negotiation, and safety measuresbeforehand to ensure that both partners are comfortable with the fantasy.

Knife Play: A form of BDSM edge play that involves the use of knives or blades for sensation, fear play, or psychological stimulation. While the blades are usually not used to cut, they create a thrilling feeling of danger and heightened submission. Knife play requires strict safety protocols, precise blade handling skills, and clear consent between partners.

Klismaphilia (Enema Fetish): A fetish for receiving enemas for sexual arousal or as part of medical roleplay. This practice may involve controlled fluid insertion, often heightening feelings of vulnerability, submission, and control within a BDSM scene.

Kinky: A broad term used to describe various unconventional sexual practices, including BDSM, fetishes, and role-play. The term celebrates diverse sexual expressions, encouraging open-minded exploration of desires while emphasizing consent and communication.

Kinkster: A person who actively participates in or identifies with the kink and BDSM community. Kinksters may engage in various BDSM activities, role-plays, fetishes, or alternative sexual practices, often embracing consensual power exchange and boundary exploration.

Knotting (Rope Bondage & Shibari Knots): The practice of using intricate knots in bondage to secure a submissive partner. Knotting ranges from simple wrist ties to elaborate decorative knots, often enhancing both the aesthetic and functional aspects of restraint. This is a core part of Shibari and Kinbaku rope bondage.

Kneeling (Submissive Positioning): A submissive position where the submissive kneels before the dominant as a sign of respect, devotion, or obedience. Kneeling can enhance feelings of vulnerability and submission, and it is commonly incorporated into BDSM rituals, D/s training, and formal high-protocol relationships.

Kinky Sex: A broad term referring to sexual activities that deviate from traditional or vanilla sex, encompassing BDSM, fetishes, role-playing, and other alternative sexual expressions. Kinky sex places emphasis on consensual exploration, creativity, and mutual pleasure.

Kitten Play: A type of pet play where the submissive takes on the role of a kitten, often mimicking cat-like behaviors such as purring, kneading, rubbing against their dominant, or playful biting. The dominant partner often assumes the role of a caretaker, owner, or trainer, reinforcing a nurturing or training-based D/s dynamic.

Keyholder (Chastity Play): A dominant partner who controls the key to a chastity device worn by a submissive. The keyholder has complete control over when the submissive is released from chastity, reinforcing power exchange, orgasm denial, and submissive endurance.

Kiss of Submission: A ritual or act in which a submissive kisses the dominant’s hand, feet, or another designated body part as a sign of respect, devotion, or acknowledgment of authority. This symbolic gesture is often used in D/s relationships, collaring ceremonies, or high-protocol interactions.

Kinky Cuddling (Aftercare Bonding): A form of intimate, affectionate touch that occurs after BDSM scenes or during light kink play. This can include cuddling, stroking, holding, or whispering reassurances, reinforcing emotional connection and aftercare between partners.

Kink Shaming (Unethical Judgment of Kinks): The act of criticizing, belittling, or mocking someone’s consensual sexual preferences. The BDSM community promotes Kink-Positive culture, encouraging open discussion and judgment-free exploration of desires—as long as they are consensual and safe.

Knismolagnia (Tickle Fetish & Sensation Play): A fetish for tickling as a form of sexual stimulation or power play. Some enjoy light, teasing tickles as a form of sensation play, while others use intense, restrictive tickling as a means of tease and denial or forced laughter torture.

Knuckle Play (Fisting & Deep Insertion Fetish): A kink that involves deep penetration using the knuckles or entire hand, typically as an extension of fisting play. This practice requires extreme preparation, relaxation, and a high level of trust between partners.

Kneepad Fetish (Worship & Roleplay Kink): A fetish involving kneepads as a symbol of submission, service, or worship. Some submissives wear kneepads to enhance long kneeling sessions, while others incorporate them into forced labor, pet play, or domestic servitudescenarios.

Kicking Fetish (Impact Play Variation): A less common form of impact play where kicking (either receiving or delivering) is incorporated into BDSM scenes. This kink requires proper communication, negotiation, and understanding of limits to prevent unwanted injury.

Killer Heels (High Heel Worship & Fetishism): A fetish for high heels, stilettos, and other dominant footwear, often linked to foot worship, feminization play, and power dressing in Femdom dynamics. Some submissives may be required to lick, massage, or clean their dominant’s heels as an act of service.

Kink Exploration (Sexual Discovery Through BDSM): The act of experimenting with different kinks, fetishes, and BDSM activities to discover personal preferences and desires. Many kinksters go through a journey of exploration, engaging in play parties, workshops, or online communities to expand their knowledge

Latex Fetish: A sexual attraction to latex clothing, often associated with BDSM due to its tight, shiny, and restrictive qualities. Many individuals find the look, feel, and sound of latex highly erotic, as it enhances sensory play, submission, and domination. Latex is frequently used in full-body suits, hoods, gloves, or fetish outfits.

Leather Fetish: A fetish for leather clothing, gear, and accessories, often worn by dominants or submissives in the BDSM community. Leather symbolizes authority, power, and tradition, making it a popular material for bondage gear, whips, harnesses, and full outfits. The leather subculture has deep ties to the gay BDSM and kink community.

Limit (Soft/Hard): A boundary set in BDSM play:

Soft limit – A boundary that may be explored under certain conditions if both partners feel comfortable.
Hard limit – An absolute boundary that must never be crossed, ensuring all parties feel safe, respected, and in control. Limits are crucial in negotiating BDSM scenes.

Little: A submissive in an age-play dynamic who takes on a childlike or youthful persona, often paired with a Daddy or Mommy dominant. Littles may enjoy activities like coloring, playing with stuffed animals, or speaking in a childlike tone, creating a comforting and nurturing power exchange.

Leather Daddy/Mommy: A dominant figure in the leather community who takes on a protective, guiding, and sometimes mentoring role in a BDSM relationship. Leather Daddies and Mommies embody authority, strength, and experience, often nurturing a deep bond with their submissive.

Lust: A strong desire or craving for sexual pleasure, which can be directed toward a partner, kink, or fetish scenario. Lust is often an integral part of BDSM play, intensifying power exchange, desire, and erotic energy.

Losing Control (Submissive Surrender): A phrase describing a submissive relinquishing control to a dominant partner, often leading to heightened feelings of vulnerability, liberation, and erotic surrender. Many submissives seek out controlled loss of control, trusting their dominant to keep them safe.

Loving Dominance: A style of dominance characterized by care, affection, and emotional support, where the dominant nurtures their submissive while maintaining control. This approach fosters deep trust and connection, reinforcing power exchange with a foundation of love and respect.

Lingerie Fetish: A fetish for lingerie and intimate apparel, such as lace bras, garter belts, corsets, stockings, and bodysuits. Lingerie can be used in BDSM play for seduction, power dynamics, and roleplay, emphasizing visual and tactile stimulation.

Lycra Fetish: A fetish for lycra or spandex clothing, particularly tight, body-hugging outfits that enhance curves and muscle definition. Lycra fetishism often overlaps with fetishes related to sportswear, superhero roleplay, and skin-tight clothing.

Leverage (Power Dynamics in BDSM): A term describing the balance of power in BDSM, where one partner uses their position, influence, or authority to control or manipulate the other. Understanding leverage is crucial for maintaining consent, safety, and ethical power exchange in BDSM relationships.

Lustful Obedience: A term describing a submissive’s deep craving to obey their dominant, often driven by desire, devotion, or the pleasure of surrender. This concept is common in service submission and high-protocol relationships.

Lactation Kink (Erotic Milk Fetish): A fetish for breastfeeding or lactation play, where one partner drinks, sucks, or stimulates milk production for pleasure, submission, or nurturing roleplay.

Leg Restraints (Lower Body Bondage): A type of bondage that focuses on restraining the legs, often using ankle cuffs, rope ties, spreader bars, or leg binders. Leg restraints can increase vulnerability, enhance sensory play, or restrict movement during BDSM play.

Latex Encasement (Full-Body Latex Bondage): A fetish for being fully encased in latex, restricting movement and sensation. Latex encasement often involves vacuum-sealed latex beds, zentai suits, or head-to-toe catsuits, emphasizing total immersion in sensory deprivation.

Lick Fetish (Oral Worship Kink): A fetish involving the act of licking specific body parts (such as feet, armpits, or genitals) as a form of submission, sensory play, or adoration.

Long-Distance D/s (Virtual BDSM Relationships): A BDSM dynamic where the dominant and submissive maintain their relationship from a distance, often using online communication, voice commands, video calls, or digital chastity locks to enforce control.

Love Bites (Biting Fetish & Marking Play): A kink where a dominant bites their submissive as a form of marking, sensation play, or possessiveness. Love bites can range from gentle nibbles to deep bites that leave bruises or welts.

Lip Worship: A fetish for kissing, sucking, or tracing the lips with fingers or tongues, often used in seduction, foreplay, or domination scenarios.

Lust Domination (Desire-Based BDSM): A BDSM style where the dominant's control is fueled by raw lust and passion, often involving tease and denial, primal sex, or uninhibited power exchange.

Masochism: The act of deriving pleasure from experiencing pain, whether physical (impact play, bondage, sensory play) or emotional (humiliation, degradation). Masochists may enjoy pain as a form of arousal, catharsis, or psychological submission, often finding that it deepens their overall sexual or BDSM experience.

Masturbation Control (Edging & Orgasm Denial): A kink where one partner controls when and how the other is allowed to masturbate, often leading to sexual frustration, tease and denial, and heightened pleasure. This can be part of long-term chastity, remote-controlled teasing, or submissive training.

Medical Play: A form of role-play that involves medical procedures, often using real or mock medical equipment (e.g., needles, catheters, stethoscopes, restraints) to enhance the scene. Medical play can tap into feelings of vulnerability, power exchange, or clinical objectification but requires strict safety and hygiene protocols.

Mind Control (Hypnosis & Psychological Domination): A kink involving the fantasy of one partner controlling the other’s thoughts, actions, or desires, often through hypnosis, verbal conditioning, or deep psychological dominance. This can include suggestion-based roleplay, brainwashing fantasy, or consensual manipulation in a D/s relationship.

Mummification (Total Immobilization Bondage): A form of bondage where a submissive is wrapped or restrained using materials such as plastic wrap, cloth, bandages, or rope, rendering them completely immobile. Mummification enhances sensory deprivation, helplessness, and deep submission, requiring careful attention to breathing and circulation safety.

Mock Non-Con (CNC - Consensual Non-Consent Roleplay): A role-playing scenario that simulates non-consensual acts while emphasizing pre-negotiated consent, boundaries, and safety measures. Participants must establish safe words, post-scene check-ins, and clear limits to ensure mutual comfort and trust.

Monogamous BDSM: A BDSM relationship dynamic between two exclusive partners, engaging in kink and power exchange solely with each other. Monogamous BDSM often emphasizes trust, deep intimacy, and continuous exploration of mutual limits and desires.

Mature Fetish (Age-Based Attraction Kink): A fetish that centers around sexual attraction to older individuals, often celebrating their wisdom, experience, and authority. This can include age-gap roleplay, dominant older partners (e.g., Daddy/Mommy dynamics), or real-life attraction to mature individuals.

Multiple Partner Dynamics (Polyamory & Group BDSM Play): BDSM scenarios that involve multiple partners, including polyamorous D/s relationships, group sex, or power exchange structures with more than two individuals. Clear negotiation, consent, and communication are essential to maintain safety, respect, and emotional well-being.

Mistress/Master: Titles commonly used for a dominant partner in BDSM relationships:

Mistress – Typically refers to a female dominant.
Master – Typically refers to a male dominant.
These titles denote authority, power exchange, and ownership within D/s (Dominance/submission) or M/s (Master/slave) dynamics.

Mental Submission (Psychological Domination & Mind Control): A form of submission that prioritizes mental surrender rather than physical restraint. This can involve verbal commands, thought conditioning, emotional submission, or behavioral training, often deepening the dominant’s psychological influence over the submissive.

Masochistic Meditation (Pain-Fueled Trance States): A state where a masochist enters deep relaxation or trance through controlled pain, such as flogging, spanking, or electrostimulation. Some submissives experience euphoric or meditative states when pain overwhelms the senses, leading to endorphin-fueled subspace experiences.

Milking (Forced Orgasm Play): A BDSM practice where a dominant forces a submissive to orgasm repeatedly, often to exhaustion or overstimulation. Milking can be used in chastity play, forced orgasm training, or teasing and denial cycles.

Marking (Bite, Bruise & Scratch Fetish): A kink where a dominant leaves visible marks on their submissive, such as bruises, hickeys, scratches, or welts from impact play. Some submissives wear their marks as a sign of devotion, while others enjoy the sensation and aftercare of being marked.

Mutual Masturbation (Control-Based Play): A practice where both partners masturbate in front of each other while following commands, instructions, or power dynamics. Mutual masturbation can be used in exhibitionism, JOI (jerk-off instruction), or tease and denial sessions.

Metal Fetish (Chain, Steel & Hardware Kink): A fetish involving metal objects, such as chains, steel collars, cuffs, or chastity devices. Metal gear is often used in heavy bondage, industrial aesthetics, and sensory-based BDSM play.

Maid Training (Feminization & Service Kink): A kink where a submissive is trained to act as a maid, often in sissy play, feminization roleplay, or domestic servitude scenes. Maid training can involve household tasks, obedience training, and role-specific attire.

Masquerade Kink (Masked Roleplay & Disguised Identity Play): A kink that involves wearing masks, disguises, or hidden identities during BDSM play. Common in mystery-themed sex parties, anonymous play, or sensory deprivation roleplay.

Mistress Worship (Domme Devotion & Femdom Fetish): A form of submission where the submissive adores, serves, and reveres their dominant Mistress. This can include foot worship, financial domination (findom), body worship, and acts of devotion.

Mindfuck Play (Psychological Manipulation Kink): A form of BDSM play that involves twisting expectations, tricking the mind, or creating mental contradictions. This can be achieved through deception, unpredictability, or confusion-based dominance, heightening submission and surrender.

Needle Play (Medical Fetish & Precision Pain Play): A BDSM activity where sterile needles are inserted into the skin for sensation, pain, body modification, or decoration (such as temporary piercings or artistic needle arrangements). Safety and hygiene are critical, requiring the use of sterile needles, proper placement techniques, and aftercare to prevent infections or complications.

Nipple Torture (Intense Sensory Play): A practice that involves inflicting pain or discomfort on the nipples through clamps, suction, pinching, biting, or electric stimulation. Nipple torture can enhance sensation, submission, and orgasmic intensity, but requires proper negotiation and consent to prevent nerve damage.

Nylon Fetish (Stocking & Hosiery Kink): A fetish for nylon clothing, particularly stockings, tights, pantyhose, and bodysuits. Often linked to leg or foot fetishism, nylon lovers enjoy the smooth, silky texture and tight fit, which can heighten visual and tactile arousal.

Non-Con (Consensual Non-Consent - CNC Play): A role-playing scenario that simulates non-consensual acts, where all boundaries are pre-negotiated and safe words are established. CNC relies on absolute trust and deep psychological understanding between partners to ensure emotional and physical safety.

Negotiation (BDSM Boundary & Consent Discussion): The process of discussing and agreeing upon boundaries, desires, and limits before engaging in BDSM play. Effective negotiation is vital for establishing trust, ensuring mutual satisfaction, and maintaining safety.

Nurturing Dominance (Loving & Protective Dom Style): A style of dominance that blends control with care and emotional support. Nurturing dominants often take on a paternal/maternal role, guiding their submissive through encouragement, discipline, structure, and protective oversight. This is commonly seen in age play, service submission, and high-protocol relationships.

Natural Domination (Innate Leadership in Power Exchange): A type of dominance that emerges naturally from a dominant’s personality, confidence, or assertiveness, rather than as an adopted BDSM role. Some dominants naturally exude authority, command presence, and effortlessly take control, creating a power dynamic that feels instinctive rather than performative.

Navel Play (Belly Button Fetish & Sensory Play): A fetish or kink that focuses on the stimulation of the navel (belly button), which can be a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Navel play may include licking, sucking, fingering, tickling, or jewelry adornment, often adding a teasing or exploratory element to foreplay.

Neck Bondage (Collar & Restriction Play): A form of bondage that involves restraining the neck using collars, ropes, chains, or cuffs. Neck bondage can enhance submission, vulnerability, and control but must be handled with extreme caution to prevent breathing restrictions or circulation issues.

Naughty (Playful Submission & Rebellious Roleplay): A playful term used in BDSM to describe mischievous, disobedient, or teasing behavior, often as part of brat play, punishment dynamics, or sexy power struggles. Being “naughty” can invoke excitement, rebellion, and playful discipline in a BDSM scene.

Non-Verbal Consent (Body Language-Based Permission): A form of consent given through body language, gestures, or responses rather than explicit verbal agreement. While it can be a valid part of established dynamics or primal play, non-verbal consent should always be combined with clear prior negotiation and trust to avoid misinterpretation.

Need-Based Submission (Emotional & Psychological Submission): A type of submission where a submissive feels a deep emotional or psychological need to be controlled, protected, or guided by their dominant. This can manifest in lifestyle D/s relationships, long-term dynamics, or mentorship-based power exchanges.

Nudity Play (Exhibitionism & Public Humiliation Kink): A kink involving forced or voluntary nudity as part of BDSM play. This can range from private submission (naked in the home, enforced nudity at events) to public exposure (consensual exhibitionism, body worship, or streaking roleplay).

Nose Hooking (Facial Restraint & Degradation Play): A form of bondage or sensory play that involves inserting hooks into the nostrils, pulling them upwards for a forced-open expression. Nose hooks are often used in dehumanization, objectification, or humiliation play.

Nightmare Play (Fear-Inducing Fantasy Roleplay): A kink where a dominant orchestrates a scenario that simulates a submissive’s fears, anxieties, or unsettling fantasies. This may involve dark themes, predator/prey roleplay, or intense psychological elements. Trust, negotiation, and aftercare are critical for this kind of extreme play.

Nipple Orgasms (Non-Genital Pleasure & Stimulation Fetish): A kink centered around achieving orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, often through suction, electrostimulation, clamps, or prolonged teasing. Some individuals are naturally sensitive enough to orgasm from nipple play alone.

Non-Monogamous BDSM (Open & Poly Kink Dynamics): BDSM relationships where partners engage in kink play with multiple people, either through ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, or open D/s arrangements. Non-monogamous BDSM requires clear boundaries, communication, and respect for all involved parties.

Navel Worship (Belly Button Fetishism & Worship Kink): A fetish centered on adoring and worshiping the navel, which can include licking, kissing, sucking, or gently biting the belly button as an act of submission or sensual appreciation.

Neurodivergent Kink (BDSM for ADHD, Autism & Other Neurotypes): A recognition of how neurodivergent individuals (such as those with ADHD, autism, or anxiety disorders) engage in BDSM differently, often preferring structured communication, deep sensory play, or predictable dynamics.

Objectification (Human Furniture & Dehumanization Play): A BDSM practice where a submissive is treated as an object or possession, often for the pleasure of the dominant partner. Objectification can involve the submissive being used solely for their body, appearance, or sexual function, emphasizing power dynamics, degradation, or obedience training. Common forms include:

Human furniture (forniphilia) – The submissive is used as a chair, table, or footstool.
Sex objectification – The submissive exists solely for their dominant’s pleasure.
Mannequin play – The submissive remains still and silent, like an inanimate object.

Obedience Training (Submissive Discipline & Control): A BDSM practice where a submissive is trained to follow commands, rituals, or rules set by their dominant. This training may involve:

Behavior reinforcement (praise & punishment).
Speech training (use of honorifics, limited talking permissions).
Task-based submission (domestic service, sexual obedience).

Oral Worship (Mouth-Based Submission & Devotion): A practice where one partner is required to worship another’s genitals, feet, or body through oral stimulation. Oral worship often includes:

Devotion-based service (reverence for the dominant’s pleasure).
Oral fixation play (submissive derives pleasure from sucking or licking).
Humiliation-based submission (dominant forces the submissive to perform oral acts).

Orgasm Control (Tease & Denial, Forced Orgasms): A BDSM technique where a dominant controls when and how the submissive is allowed to orgasm. Common variations include:

Edging – Bringing the submissive close to orgasm repeatedly without release.
Chastity play – Using devices to physically prevent orgasm.
Forced orgasms – Overstimulating the submissive to the point of exhaustion.

Overstimulation (Orgasm Torture & Sensory Overload): A BDSM practice where a sensitive body part (often the genitals) is stimulated past the point of pleasure, leading to:

Uncontrollable orgasms or orgasmic exhaustion.
Desensitization (making future orgasms more difficult or extreme).
Tease-and-denial frustration or pleasure overload.

Open Relationship (Non-Monogamous Kink Structures): A relationship style where partners consensually engage in sexual or romantic experiences with others outside of their primary partnership. Open relationships can exist within:

Polyamorous dynamics (multiple loving relationships).
Swinging lifestyles (casual partner swapping).
D/s relationships with play-based non-monogamy.

Outing (Non-Consensual Exposure of BDSM Identity): The unethical act of revealing someone's sexual orientation, BDSM lifestyle, or kink identity without their consent. This can have severe social, professional, or personal consequences, making privacy and discretion crucial in the BDSM community.

O-Rings (Bondage Hardware & Restraint Gear): Circular metal rings used in bondage gear, often attached to:

Collars (symbolizing ownership & submission).
Harnesses (for rope or chain attachment).
Restraints (cuffs, leashes, spreader bars, or suspension gear).

Ownership (D/s Relationship Commitment & Claiming): A BDSM concept where a dominant formally "owns" a submissive, signifying a deep commitment in their power exchange dynamic. Ownership may involve:

Collaring ceremonies (formal contracts of submission).
Permanent markings (tattoos, branding, or piercings).
Master/slave dynamics (full surrender of authority).

Obsession (Power-Based Psychological Fixation): A term describing the intense desire, attachment, or dependency one partner has for another within BDSM relationships. Some dominants enjoy having a submissive completely devoted to them, while some submissives find pleasure in fixation-based submission or ownership fantasies.

Over the Knee (OTK) Spanking: A classic spanking position where the submissive is placed over the dominant’s knee, allowing for:

Easy control and positioning for impact play.
Discipline-based spanking with bare-hand strikes or paddles.
Humiliation & age play associations ("punishment roleplay").

Oppression Roleplay (Power Imbalance Kinks): A BDSM scenario that simulates extreme power imbalance, often incorporating:

Totalitarian or dystopian themes (enslavement roleplay).
Class or status-based submission (servant/master roleplay).
Historical-based oppression play (Victorian-era discipline, medieval servitude).

Obscenity (Taboo Language & Verbal Degradation Play): A kink that involves explicit, degrading, or humiliating language in BDSM play. This can range from:

Dirty talk and vulgar commands (doms using graphic language to heighten arousal).
Verbal humiliation & degradation (calling a submissive degrading names).
Blasphemy or obscenity taboo play (using religiously or socially “forbidden” language).

Oblivion Play (Total Surrender & Psychological Subspace): A BDSM practice where a submissive is pushed into complete mental and physical surrender, often through:

Sensory deprivation (blindfolds, hoods, or noise-canceling earphones).
Endurance-based submission (long-term bondage, sleep control, or chastity).
Deep subspace immersion (letting go of all resistance, fully submitting to dominant control).

Objectified Speech (Restricted Verbal Use in BDSM): A form of speech control where submissives are limited in how they speak, including:

Speaking only when spoken to.
Referring to themselves in third-person ("This slave exists to serve").
Only being allowed to moan, beg, or respond with specific phrases.

Overexposure (Extreme Exhibitionism & Public Play): A kink where a submissive is placed in highly visible or exposed positions, which can include:

Forced streaking or nude submission in private or controlled settings.
Public teasing, where dominance is subtly enforced in everyday settings.
Live streaming or filmed BDSM performances.

Pet Play: A form of roleplay where one partner assumes the role of an animal, such as a puppy, kitten, or pony, and the other acts as their handler or owner. This dynamic often involves collars, leashes, and animal-like behavior, emphasizing submission, obedience, and playfulness.

Piercing Play: A practice that incorporates body piercings into BDSM activities, either by using existing piercings for restraint or performing new piercings as part of a scene. Piercing play can heighten arousal, serve as a form of pain play, or symbolize ownership when piercings are given as a mark of submission.

Pony Play: A form of animal roleplay where one partner takes on the role of a pony while the other acts as the trainer. This type of play may involve specialized gear like harnesses, bits, and saddles, with an emphasis on discipline, control, and training.

Power Exchange: A dynamic in BDSM where one partner willingly gives up control to the other. This exchange can range from temporary roleplay scenarios to 24/7 relationships and may involve various protocols, rituals, and agreements.

Puppy Play: A subset of pet play in which a submissive takes on the role of a puppy, often engaging in behaviors such as barking, crawling, and playing fetch. The dominant partner, acting as the owner, provides guidance, discipline, and affection, reinforcing the trust and bond between them.

Public Play: Engaging in BDSM activities in public or semi-public settings, often incorporating elements of exhibitionism, humiliation, or risk. Discretion and consent are key, ensuring that non-participants are not unwillingly exposed to the scene.

Punishment: A disciplinary action within BDSM dynamics used to reinforce rules or correct behavior. Punishments can be physical, such as spanking or flogging, or psychological, including verbal reprimands, humiliation, or temporary withdrawal of privileges.

Pillow Princess: A term describing a submissive who enjoys receiving pleasure without reciprocating, often in sexual contexts. The term can be affectionate or derogatory, depending on the dynamic and understanding between partners.

Pro-Dom: A professional dominant who provides BDSM services for a fee, often conducting scenes or training submissives. Pro-Doms may specialize in various practices such as impact play, humiliation, roleplay, and fetish exploration.

Post-Scene Aftercare: The process of emotional and physical care following a BDSM scene, ensuring the well-being of all participants. Aftercare may include cuddling, talking, hydrating, tending to any marks or bruises, and reaffirming the connection between partners.

Play Party: A social event where BDSM activities take place in a structured, consensual environment. Play parties may involve public scenes, dungeon equipment, and designated areas for specific kinks, often with safety monitors ensuring consent and boundaries are respected.

Pain Play: A BDSM activity centered on the consensual infliction of pain, enhancing arousal and submission. Pain play may involve flogging, caning, paddling, spanking, or other impact techniques, as well as clamps, electrostimulation, or hot wax.

Petting: In a BDSM context, petting refers to controlled physical touch, such as stroking, caressing, or gentle teasing. It can reinforce submission, serve as a reward, or enhance intimacy between partners.

Pegging: A sexual practice where a woman or AFAB partner uses a strap-on to penetrate their male or AMAB partner anally. Pegging may be explored for prostate stimulation, power dynamics, or role reversal.

Panic Play: A form of BDSM edge play that intentionally induces feelings of panic, fear, or helplessness. This may involve mock kidnappings, breath play, confinement, or fear-based roleplay. Because of its intensity, negotiation, trust, and safety measures are critical.

Predicament Bondage: A bondage scenario that forces a submissive into a difficult position, requiring them to endure discomfort or choose between two undesirable outcomes. This type of play often combines restraint with pain, endurance, or forced decision-making, making it both physically and psychologically intense.

Punishment vs. Funishment: A distinction between true punishment and playful discipline. Punishment serves as a genuine consequence for disobedience in a BDSM relationship, reinforcing structure and obedience. Funishment, on the other hand, is a playful, often lighthearted form of spanking or discipline that is more about pleasure than correction.

Queer Kink: An umbrella term for BDSM and fetish practices that center LGBTQ+ experiences, relationships, and identities. Queer kink spaces prioritize gender inclusivity, non-traditional dynamics, and dismantling heteronormative structures in BDSM.

Queerplatonic Power Exchange: A power exchange dynamic that is emotionally intimate but not necessarily sexual, often existing within queerplatonic relationships or close D/s friendships. These relationships may involve service submission, dominance through structure, or other forms of authority exchange without sexual involvement.

Quiet Bratting: A form of brat play where the submissive is subtly defiant, using sarcasm, eye rolls, or passive resistance instead of overt disobedience. Quiet brats challenge their dominant in ways that require mental strategy rather than outright misbehavior.

Quivering (Orgasmic Shaking & Overstimulation Kink): A term describing the involuntary shaking or trembling that occurs from extreme arousal, forced orgasms, or overstimulation. Some dominants enjoy seeing their submissive quiver from pleasure, pain, or exhaustion, reinforcing the power exchange.

Quirky Sadism: A form of sadism that includes humor, playfulness, or unconventional pain infliction. Instead of traditional impact play, quirky sadists may enjoy “silly” torment methods like tickling until exhaustion, creative punishments, or unexpected sensations that mix pleasure and discomfort.

Quartering (Extreme Bondage & Restraint Play): A bondage position where all four limbs are restrained separately, often spreading the submissive in an “X” shape. Quartering may be done with rope, spreader bars, or suspension rigs, enhancing feelings of vulnerability and submission.

Quantum Subspace: A playful term describing an extreme state of subspace where a submissive feels completely lost in submission, pleasure, or sensory overload. Quantum subspace is often used humorously to explain why a submissive cannot form coherent thoughts after an intense scene.

Quarantine Bondage: A kink that became popular during lockdowns, where partners engaged in long-term restraint, self-bondage, or extended submission sessions while isolated. This period saw an increase in remote D/s relationships, virtual play, and creative solo BDSM activities.

Quickie Domination: A fast-paced BDSM scene that focuses on power exchange in a short amount of time, often emphasizing immediate submission, rapid commands, and instant obedience. This is common in quick, spontaneous play where partners still maintain full consent and safety.

Quixotic Kink: A term describing idealized, fantasy-based BDSM dynamics that may be more about dreamlike scenarios and exaggerated romance than hardcore reality. Some use this term to discuss fairy tale-style D/s relationships or ultra-dramatic roleplay sessions.

Quenching (Aftercare-Based Decompression): A term for the process of bringing a submissive back to reality after a scene, ensuring they are emotionally and physically stable. Quenching may include deep breathing, grounding exercises, cuddling, or verbal reassurance to prevent sub-drop.

Rape Fantasy (Consensual Non-Consent - CNC): A highly negotiated form of roleplay where one partner pretends to force the other into sexual activity. All participants pre-negotiate boundaries, safe words, and aftercare to ensure mutual consent and safety. This is a form of CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) and requires extensive communication and trust.

Rigger: A person who ties another individual in rope bondage (shibari or kinbaku), often taking on a dominant role in a BDSM scene. Riggers must have knowledge of safety, proper knots, and body mechanics to ensure a secure and pleasurable experience for their partner.

Rimming (Anilingus & Oral Stimulation): Oral stimulation of the anus, also known as anilingus. This practice can be a pleasurable addition to sexual activities, emphasizing intimacy, trust, and exploration of erogenous zones.

Rope Bondage (Shibari & Kinbaku Restraint Play): The use of rope to bind or restrain a partner, often for aesthetic purposes, sensory deprivation, or submission enhancement. Japanese rope bondage, or Shibari/Kinbaku, focuses on intricate designs, body positioning, and the psychological impact of restraint.

Role Play (Fantasy-Based Kink & Power Dynamics): A kink involving partners acting out specific scenarios or characters, such as teacher/student, doctor/patient, boss/secretary, or stranger danger themes. Roleplay can introduce power dynamics, taboo exploration, or psychological depth to BDSM play.

Reciprocal Submission (Switching & Power Rotation): A BDSM dynamic where both partners take turns being dominant and submissive, allowing for a balanced power exchange. This can be scene-based or a long-term relationship dynamic where control shifts depending on mood, agreement, or experimentation.

Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK): A BDSM philosophy emphasizing awareness of risks in kink activities while ensuring all participants consent with full knowledge of potential consequences. RACK encourages responsible decision-making, education, and negotiation beyond simply assuming safety.

Reinforcement (Behavior Conditioning in BDSM): A BDSM concept involving the use of positive or negative reinforcement to shape behavior in a power exchange relationship. Positive reinforcement includes rewards, praise, or physical affection, while negative reinforcement may involve punishment, restriction, or correction techniques.

Red Flags (Danger Signs in BDSM Relationships): Warning signs or behaviors in BDSM or kink relationships that indicate unhealthy dynamics, lack of consent, or potential for harm. Red flags include ignoring boundaries, refusal to negotiate, excessive control, coercion, or unsafe practices. Awareness of red flags is crucial for safety and emotional well-being.

Release (Emotional & Physical Catharsis in BDSM): The moment of emotional or physical liberation experienced during or after a BDSM scene. Release can manifest as crying, laughing, exhaustion, deep relaxation, or even euphoric states, often following intense physical play, psychological submission, or impact play.

Regret Play (Guilt & Emotional Manipulation Roleplay): A BDSM scenario that explores elements of regret or shame in a controlled, consensual manner. Regret play may involve scenes where a submissive "acts out" regret or distress after an act they initially agreed to, allowing for intense psychological roleplay.

Ritual (D/s Structure & Power Dynamic Reinforcement): Specific practices or routines established within a BDSM relationship, designed to enhance the power dynamic and create structure. Rituals can include kneeling upon greeting a dominant, wearing a collar at home, verbal affirmations, bedtime protocols, or chore-based obedience tasks.

Restraint Play (Physical Control & Bondage Techniques): A kink where one partner restricts the movement of another, often using handcuffs, rope, tape, spreader bars, or chains. Restraint play enhances submission, helplessness, and sensory control, often complementing other BDSM activities.

Reverence Play (Worship-Based Submission): A BDSM dynamic where the submissive shows devotion, admiration, or service to the dominant. This can include kissing feet, verbal praise, acts of service, or formalized rituals to reinforce hierarchy and power exchange.

Raw Play (Unscripted, Spontaneous BDSM Play): A form of BDSM where scenes are more fluid, emotional, and intuitive, rather than being strictly planned or rehearsed. Raw play often embraces natural responses, primal instincts, and deeply felt submission or dominance, leading to an intense and immersive experience.

Rough Sex (Aggressive & Intense Sexual Play): A type of sex that incorporates rougher elements such as choking, spanking, biting, hair pulling, or forceful thrusting, often within a consensual, negotiated framework. Rough sex can be separate from BDSM or exist within a power exchange dynamic.

Ritualistic Discipline (Protocol-Based Submission Training): A structured form of discipline in BDSM that involves consistent correction, obedience training, and reinforcement of submissive behaviors through formalized rituals. Ritualistic discipline often includes punishment charts, rules of conduct, and structured reinforcement methods.

Remote Domination (Long-Distance D/s & Virtual BDSM): A power exchange dynamic where the dominant controls the submissive from a distance, using text messages, phone calls, video sessions, tracking apps, or remote-controlled toys. Remote domination allows for constant reinforcement of control without physical presence.

Rough Body Play (Physical Domination Without Implements): A BDSM practice that involves wrestling, slapping, shoving, or physical struggle play, emphasizing dominance through physical force rather than using toys or bondage. Rough body play can be incorporated into primal play, interrogation play, or fight-based roleplay.

Rope Discipline (Bondage Training & Restraint Rules): A structured approach to teaching rope bondage techniques, positioning, and restraint etiquette. In some BDSM relationships, submissives may be expected to learn specific postures, maintain stillness, or follow strict rope discipline protocols.

Resistance Play (Struggle-Based Power Exchange): A kink where the submissive pretends to resist domination while still giving implied or verbal consent. This play can include mock struggling, playful defiance, or semi-forced positioning, often used in CNC and primal-based scenes.

Reclaimed Degradation (Reframing Shame-Based Kinks Positively): A concept where individuals embrace humiliation or degradation kinks as an empowering act, reclaiming power over words, roles, or fetishes that may have been negative in the past. Reclaimed degradation allows for taboo exploration while maintaining a sense of control and choice.

Sadism: Deriving sexual pleasure from inflicting pain, humiliation, or suffering on another person within a consensual BDSM context.

Sadomasochism (S&M): A combination of sadism and masochism, where participants derive pleasure from both giving and receiving pain, often forming the basis for power exchange dynamics.

Sensation Play: A BDSM practice that focuses on different sensory experiences, often involving temperature changes, light touches, textures, or sharp sensations to heighten arousal. Common tools include ice, wax, feathers, Wartenberg wheels, or electrostimulation devices.

Service Submission: A form of submission where the submissive derives pleasure from serving their dominant, whether through acts of obedience, domestic service, or practical tasks that reinforce the power dynamic.

Shibari: A Japanese style of rope bondage that emphasizes intricate knots, aesthetic patterns, and the artistic restraint of a submissive partner. Shibari often blends pain, pleasure, control, and artistic expression.

Slave: A person who willingly gives up complete control to a dominant partner, often participating in 24/7 BDSM relationships with strict rules, protocols, and high levels of commitment.

Soft Limits: Boundaries in BDSM that a person is hesitant about but might be willing to explore under the right circumstances. These limits require caution, discussion, and ongoing consent negotiation.

Spanking: A form of impact play where the submissive’s buttocks, thighs, or other areas are struck with a hand, paddle, flogger, or other implements. Spanking can be used for pleasure, discipline, or punishment within a consensual framework.

Sploshing: A fetish involving the use of messy substances such as food, paint, mud, or whipped cream in sexual activities. Sploshing focuses on tactile and visual stimulation, often incorporating sensory play and humiliation dynamics.

Submission: The act of giving up control to a dominant partner, whether during scenes, structured relationships, or lifestyle BDSM dynamics. Submission is based on trust, consent, and emotional surrender.

Subspace: A mental state submissives may enter during intense BDSM scenes, characterized by euphoria, relaxation, or dissociation. Subspace results from endorphin and adrenaline release, and proper aftercare is crucial to ensure the submissive’s well-being.

Submissive: A person who willingly gives up control and power to a dominant partner in a BDSM relationship or scene. Submissives may engage in various forms of power exchange, discipline, and service based on negotiated dynamics.

Sensation Overload: A BDSM experience where multiple sensory stimuli are introduced simultaneously, intensifying arousal and increasing the scene’s impact. Sensory overload may involve temperature contrasts, tickling, impact play, and deprivation techniques to heighten responsiveness.

Safety Checks: Regular verbal or non-verbal communication practices during a BDSM scene to ensure all participants are comfortable, engaged, and consenting to continue. Safety checks help prevent accidental boundary violations or emotional distress.

Suspension Bondage: A specialized form of rope bondage where the submissive is lifted off the ground using ropes, pulleys, or harnesses. Suspension requires technical skill, knowledge of body mechanics, and safety measures to prevent injury.

Screaming Orgasm: A term describing an intensely vocal orgasm, often associated with heightened physical and emotional release during sexual activity. This may be enhanced through BDSM play, overstimulation, or deep submission states.

Strict Protocol: A set of specific rules and behavioral expectations established within a BDSM relationship, dictating how a submissive should act in the presence of their dominant. Strict protocol enhances power dynamics, obedience training, and structured submission.

Scent Play: A kink involving the use of different scents to stimulate arousal. This may include essential oils, perfumes, body odors, or pheromone-based attraction, often incorporating sensation play, primal play, or dominance-based rituals.

Slave Contract: A written agreement between a dominant and submissive (often in a Master/slave relationship) outlining rules, expectations, limits, and responsibilities. Though not legally binding, a slave contract serves as a symbolic and structured representation of submission and power exchange.

Stockholm Syndrome Roleplay: A CNC-based (consensual non-consent) roleplay where the submissive "falls in love" with their captor, mirroring the psychological attachment associated with Stockholm Syndrome. This kink explores manipulation, power dynamics, and mind control fantasies, requiring careful negotiation and trust.

Silent Submission: A practice where the submissive remains silent or non-verbal during play, responding only through body language, gestures, or obedience. Silent submission heightens dominance through non-verbal communication and reinforces control.

Scarification Play: A form of body modification kink where controlled cutting is used to create scars, often as a symbol of submission, ownership, or dedication. Scarification is considered extreme edge play and requires medical knowledge, consent, and aftercare.

Shadow Play: A psychological kink where a dominant exposes a submissive’s deepest fears, insecurities, or desires, bringing them to light in a controlled, consensual way. This can involve verbal humiliation, mind games, or forced self-reflection, often enhancing emotional submission and trust.

Shock Play (Electroplay): A BDSM practice using electric stimulation devices, such as violet wands or TENS units, to create pleasurable or painful sensations on the body. Electroplay is considered an advanced kink requiring knowledge of safety precautions and proper intensity control.

Sexual Slavery Roleplay: A fantasy kink where a submissive acts as a "sex slave" under the control of their dominant, often following strict rules, limited privileges, and sexual obedience. This roleplay requires explicit boundaries, clear consent, and aftercare discussions.

Stamina Training: A BDSM practice where a submissive is trained to endure prolonged sexual stimulation, physical endurance, or controlled orgasms. Stamina training can involve forced orgasm play, edging, or endurance-based submission.

Spreader Bar: A bondage tool that forces the submissive’s legs or arms apart, limiting movement and increasing vulnerability. Spreader bars enhance power exchange, restraint play, and forced positioning.

Spit Play (Saliva Kink): A fetish that involves spitting on a partner or being spat on as part of a BDSM dynamic. Spit play may be linked to degradation, humiliation, or primal interactions, requiring clear boundaries and hygiene precautions.

Strap Play (Strap-On Domination & Pegging): A kink involving strap-on dildos for penetration, typically in power exchange, feminization, or role reversal dynamics. Strap play may involve pegging, forced submission, or service-based pleasure control.

Sub-Drop: A post-scene phenomenon where a submissive experiences emotional or physical exhaustion, sadness, or detachmentafter an intense BDSM session. Sub-drop requires careful aftercare, reassurance, and check-ins to help regulate emotions

Temperature Play: The use of hot or cold sensations on the skin during BDSM play, often through wax, ice, or heated objects to create contrasting feelings.

Tease and Denial: A practice where one partner teases the other sexually, bringing them close to orgasm but denying them release. This can be prolonged over a period of time.

TENS Unit: A device that delivers electrical stimulation through the skin, often used in electro play for controlled sensation.

Tickling Fetish: A fetish focused on the act of tickling, which can be a form of light torture or play.

TPE (Total Power Exchange): A BDSM dynamic where one partner (the submissive) gives up all power and control to the other partner (the dominant) in various aspects of their life. This can include daily decisions and personal boundaries, emphasizing deep trust and commitment.

Tease and Denial: A sexual practice involving the stimulation of a partner to the brink of orgasm and then stopping before they can climax. This can create heightened arousal and anticipation, often used as a form of control in BDSM dynamics.

Tender Domination: A style of dominance characterized by a nurturing and caring approach. The dominant partner emphasizes emotional connection and support while still maintaining control over the submissive.

Toys: Refers to various devices and implements used in BDSM and kink activities, including restraints, impact toys (like paddles and whips), sensory devices (like feathers or blindfolds), and sexual aids (like vibrators).

Topping from the Bottom: A term used to describe a situation where the submissive exerts control over the scene or dynamic, often by directing or influencing the dominant's actions. This can create tension in power dynamics.

Tit Play: A form of erotic stimulation that focuses on the breasts, which can involve various techniques such as squeezing, pinching, licking, or using clamps to enhance pleasure.

Transgressive Kink: A kink that intentionally breaks social norms or taboos, often exploring themes considered outside mainstream sexuality. This may include age play, race play, or other unconventional dynamics.

Trust Exercises: Activities or scenarios designed to build trust between partners in a BDSM relationship. These can include communication exercises, vulnerability challenges, or structured scenes that test limits.

Trigger Warning: A notice given before engaging in discussions or activities that may evoke strong emotional responses or trauma in individuals. It emphasizes the importance of consent and awareness of psychological safety in BDSM dynamics.

Tight Bondage: A bondage technique that involves applying restraints snugly, often to enhance feelings of restriction and vulnerability. This technique can increase the intensity of a scene but requires careful attention to safety and comfort.

Uniform Fetish: A fetish for people dressed in uniforms, often associated with military, police, nurse, or schoolgirl outfits.

Urolagnia (Watersports): A fetish for urine play, also known as golden showers, where participants derive pleasure from urinating on or being urinated on by a partner.

Unicorn: In BDSM contexts, a "unicorn" often refers to a third partner (typically a bisexual woman) invited into a couple's sexual relationship. The term signifies the rarity of finding someone who fits both partners' desires.

Undressing Play: A form of erotic play where one partner undresses the other slowly, often creating anticipation and heightened arousal. This can be used as a form of foreplay within BDSM scenes.

Unconventional Dynamics: Refers to BDSM relationships or practices that do not fit typical power exchange roles or structures, allowing for more personalized and creative expressions of dominance and submission.

Under the Table: A term used to describe discreet sexual activities happening in public spaces, often involving risk and excitement due to the possibility of being caught.

Urethral Play: The insertion of objects (like sounds) into the urethra for sexual stimulation. This practice requires knowledge of safety and hygiene to avoid injury or infection.

Utility Play: A kink that focuses on the practical use of BDSM gear or devices, emphasizing functionality over aesthetics. This can include the use of various restraints, gags, or impact toys in a scene.

Ultimate Submission: A concept that refers to the deepest level of submission a person can achieve, often explored in highly structured BDSM dynamics or long-term power exchange relationships.

Utopian Kink: A term describing fantasies or kinks that envision ideal or perfect scenarios, often incorporating elements of escapism or alternative lifestyles, emphasizing blissful or harmonious relationships.

Universal Consent: The principle that consent should be obtained for all aspects of BDSM play and relationships, emphasizing the importance of clear communication, understanding, and agreement on boundaries.

Upward Mobility: In BDSM dynamics, this can refer to the process of a submissive's growth and development within a power exchange relationship, often involving increased responsibilities or trust as they progress.

Vanilla: A term used to describe sexual activities that are considered conventional or non-kinky. It often refers to relationships or practices that do not involve BDSM or fetish elements.

Vampire Fetish: A kink centered around the fantasy of vampires, which may include elements of blood play, seduction, and immortality. This can involve role play or the incorporation of vampiric themes in sexual scenarios.

Vasoconstriction: The practice of intentionally restricting blood flow to a body part (usually the genitals) to enhance sensations. This can be done using various restraints or devices but requires careful consideration of safety and consent.

Vibrators: Devices used for sexual stimulation that can enhance arousal through vibration. In BDSM, they can be used as part of scenes to stimulate a submissive, either as a reward or a form of control.

Vicarious Play: A form of kink where one partner derives pleasure from watching or listening to the experiences of another, often involving detailed storytelling or shared fantasies that can ignite arousal.

Vow of Obedience: A formal commitment made by a submissive to adhere to the rules and protocols set by their dominant. This can be part of a long-term BDSM relationship, emphasizing the power dynamics at play.

Voyeurism: A kink involving the act of watching others engage in sexual activities, often without their knowledge. It can be a part of consensual scenes where all parties agree to be watched.

Violet Wand Play: The use of a violet wand, a device that produces high-frequency electrical currents, to create sensations on the skin. It is popular in BDSM for its ability to provide both pleasure and pain through electrical stimulation.

Vaginal Bondage: A practice that involves restraining or binding the vagina, often using ropes or other devices. It can enhance sensations and create a feeling of vulnerability.

Vampirism (Blood Play): A kink involving the drawing of blood, often associated with fantasies of vampires or the eroticization of blood itself. Safety and consent are paramount in these practices, which may include the use of sterilized tools and strict negotiation of limits.

Wax Play: The practice of dripping hot wax onto a submissive’s skin. It can create intense sensations ranging from mild warmth to sharp pain. Safety is crucial, with specific types of wax designed for this purpose to prevent burns.

Wartenberg Wheel: A small medical tool used in BDSM to create sensations by rolling over the skin. It features small, spiked wheels that gently prick the surface, offering a mix of pleasure and pain.

Whipping: A form of impact play involving striking the submissive with a whip or similar implement. This can include various styles, from gentle flicks to intense lashes, depending on the dynamics and limits established.

Whip Count: A practice where the dominant partner keeps track of the number of strikes or hits given during a scene. This can add an element of mental focus for both partners and enhance the intensity of the experience.

White Tie: A formal dress code that often features tuxedos with tails, white gloves, and a waistcoat. In BDSM contexts, it can refer to events or gatherings where participants dress in elaborate, formal attire, often emphasizing the elegance of the scene.

Wild Card: A term used to describe an unpredictable element in a BDSM scene, where the dominant introduces surprise actions or sensations that the submissive cannot anticipate, heightening the excitement and intensity.

Wing Play: A type of role play involving the concept of "wings," where one partner embodies a character with wings (such as an angel or a fairy), adding an element of fantasy and imagination to the scene.

Wrist Restraints: Specific restraints designed to bind the wrists of a submissive, often made from leather, rope, or fabric. These can be part of a larger bondage setup, restricting movement and enhancing the feeling of submission.

Womb Worship: A niche kink involving the reverence and appreciation of a partner’s reproductive system, often focusing on the womb and the potential for childbirth, celebrating fertility and femininity.

Wholesome Kink: A term used to describe kinks or BDSM practices that prioritize consent, care, and mutual respect. This approach emphasizes the importance of healthy relationships within kink communities.

Xenophilia: A sexual attraction to or interest in people from foreign cultures or backgrounds. This can manifest in various ways, including fantasies involving cultural dress, customs, or accents.

X-Rated: A term typically used to describe explicit sexual content, including movies, literature, or performances that are intended for adult audiences only due to graphic depictions of sexual acts.

X-Play: A broad term referring to any activities involving extreme or unconventional sexual practices, often emphasizing pushing boundaries and exploring fantasies that may be considered taboo.

Xeroticism: The exploration of erotic feelings or fantasies through the lens of sexuality, often involving the mixing of various kinks and fetishes to create a personalized sexual experience.

X-treme Bondage: A form of bondage that goes beyond traditional methods, incorporating more intense restraints, intricate tying techniques, or extreme positions that challenge the submissive’s limits.

Xenoglossy: A rare term referring to the phenomenon where an individual is able to speak or write in a language they have never learned. In a kink context, it might be used metaphorically to describe a deep connection or understanding between partners during role play or erotic scenarios.

X-Chain: A type of bondage using chains as a restraint method. The use of chains can add a sensory element to the experience, such as the sound and feel of metal against the skin.

Yoni Worship: A practice of reverence and devotion to the female genitals, often involving rituals or oral worship.

Yoke: A restraint device that holds a submissive’s arms together, often used to restrict movement during bondage play. It can also symbolize the dominant’s control over the submissive.

Yoni Massage: A form of sensual massage focusing on the female genitalia (yoni) to promote relaxation, sexual arousal, and intimacy. Often used in tantra or sacred sexuality practices, it emphasizes the connection between body and spirit.

Yearning: A psychological state often associated with BDSM dynamics, particularly in power exchange relationships. It refers to the deep desire and emotional longing one partner feels for the other, often enhanced through control and submission dynamics.

Yellow Light: A term used in BDSM to indicate a pause or a slow-down in a scene. It serves as a warning that the submissive may be approaching their limits and needs to reassess or communicate their feelings.

Yoke Bondage: A specific type of bondage using a yoke-like apparatus to tie a submissive’s arms above their head or around their body, often restricting movement and increasing vulnerability.

Yoni Worship Ritual: A practice where participants honor and celebrate the female genitals through various forms of touch, praise, and oral stimulation, often emphasizing respect, devotion, and a spiritual connection.

Youthful Role Play: Engaging in scenarios where partners role-play as younger individuals, often as a form of age play. This practice should always be consensual and clear in its boundaries to avoid ethical concerns.

Yoke Play: A practice that involves creating a bond or connection through the use of a physical restraint or yoke, often used to enhance the feeling of being tethered to the dominant partner. It can symbolize both physical and emotional connections.

Zentai: A fetish for wearing or seeing others in full-body spandex or lycra suits that cover the entire body, often focusing on the sensation of the fabric against the skin or the anonymity of the covered body.

Zentai Suit Fetish: A fetish for full-body suits made from materials like spandex, lycra, or latex. These suits cover the entire body, including the face, often creating a sense of anonymity or depersonalization. The wearer is fully encased, leading to heightened sensations.

Zippering: A BDSM technique where clothespins or clips are attached to the skin, connected by a string or cord. The string is then pulled, causing the clips to be removed simultaneously, resulting in sharp, intense pain. It’s often used on sensitive areas like the chest or back.

Zoophilia: A sexual attraction to animals. Note: While this term appears in some fetish contexts, engaging in any sexual activity with animals is illegal and considered highly unethical.

Zugzwang: Borrowed from chess terminology, in a BDSM context, this refers to a scenario where a submissive is forced into a "no-win" situation by their dominant. Every action or inaction leads to a consequence, often used in psychological or mind-control play.

Zentai Dominance: A niche within Zentai suit play, where the dominant partner wears the suit and uses their fully encased body to manipulate or control their submissive, enhancing power dynamics by removing individual identity.

Zero Tolerance: A dynamic in which the dominant enforces strict rules with no flexibility, meaning the submissive is held to absolute standards without any room for negotiation. It emphasizes obedience and punishment for any infractions.

Zentai Bondage: Combining elements of Zentai fetishism with bondage practices, this involves restraining the individual while they are encased in a Zentai suit. The full-body suit can intensify the experience of bondage by limiting sensation and movement.

Zebra Play: A rare term referring to role-playing as a zebra, typically falling under the broader category of pony or animal play. The submissive may wear striped clothing or body paint to resemble a zebra, with behaviors mimicking the animal.

Safety Notes

Safe Words: A critical element in BDSM, a safe word is a prearranged word or signal used by the submissive or dominant to immediately stop or pause a scene. Common safe words include "red" for stop and "yellow" for slow down.
Aftercare: A vital part of BDSM, aftercare refers to the care and attention given to both partners after an intense scene, helping them recover emotionally and physically.